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How to prevent bullying at school?
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Gra-ach
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| Художник писал(а): | | Tanya, video shows fear against violence, i think |
I don't think it's fear. If you're sure of yourself (and theoretically they are aiming at kids being sure of themselves) you're not afraid because you know how to act. Or you're prepared to act and you already think what you're going to do.
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| Haveunique писал(а): | Milla, do you remember what happened here at the
university at our presentation? What did you do? What would you do in this
situation nowadays? If it is just talk about abstract matters, it doesn't matter,
our actions show everything. |
Yes I do, and I am ashamed that when that guy came, I was ready to fight as
much as I had to, but was unable to move for the fear.
You are right about abstract matters: Nowadays, I don't know what I would do.
I seriously have no idea.
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| Gra-ach писал(а): | And talking about any kind of provocation, SiFu told me during his last visit: if a person manages to get any emotion form you, then you're a goner - you can't think clearly, you can't act in timely manner, you can't come up with any kind of intelligent responce to the situation. And this other person is controlling you. If you can turn the tables and get your "attacker" emotional, then you're the winner.
And it's correct not only in hand-to-hand but in speach-to-speach as well. |
This is what my little brother calls being served.  It means that the one that
gets emotional, or cannot return a response when talking is served. I don't know
what it means, though.
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When I started reading your post I was so looking forward to getting to the explanation of the phrase
Anyways, at some point in life I made it my goal to always be able to provide a cheeky answer to any "stupid" question or remark sent my way 
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Girls, apparently something is missing in our "chemical makeup"  I raised this question at the last meeting with SiFu and all boys, including SiFu, said that the "fight back until a bully ceases" approach is the best course of action. And they couldn't even think of any other way to solve the situation.
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there are as many approaches as people, and each choose the approach
suitable for them, I think.
I don't know if I can say that boys will be boys, but seeing how my little brother
literally flies with his motorcycle, I think he at least is, and needs to be so. Even
thought it makes my heart sink sometimes.
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| Gra-ach писал(а): | | Anyways, at some point in life I made it my goal to always be able to provide a cheeky answer to any "stupid" question or remark sent my way |
Been there done that. But actually being literal with my answers, disregarding emotional remarks, makes it more simple and easy.
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| Gra-ach писал(а): | | And talking about any kind of provocation, SiFu told me during his last visit: if a person manages to get any emotion form you, then you're a goner - you can't think clearly, you can't act in timely manner, you can't come up with any kind of intelligent responce to the situation. And this other person is controlling you. If you can turn the tables and get your "attacker" emotional, then you're the winner. And it's correct not only in hand-to-hand but in speach-to-speach as well. |
Everyday life this is Anytime anyone gets more emotional than the other person, things start going towards uncontrolled actions. The coolest part is the interpretation of own emotions - shame, guilt, and everything else that's in store... I've been learning just to get over it and maybe thing about it later when the emotions are gone. And another thing... if there is no need to act while being emotional - it's better not to.
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| Gra-ach писал(а): | | Girls, apparently something is missing in our "chemical makeup" I raised this question at the last meeting with SiFu and all boys, including SiFu, said that the "fight back until a bully ceases" approach is the best course of action. And they couldn't even think of any other way to solve the situation. |
Sounds like a man's world? How do you imagine women fighting against a bully? I mean, of course there can be kicks and punches, but isn't that a last resort of us women?
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Ignoring or using brains
And if it gets violent then yes - long hair is an excellent lever
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| Haveunique писал(а): | | Gra-ach писал(а): | | And talking about any kind of provocation, SiFu told me during his last visit: if a person manages to get any emotion form you, then you're a goner - you can't think clearly, you can't act in timely manner, you can't come up with any kind of intelligent responce to the situation. And this other person is controlling you. If you can turn the tables and get your "attacker" emotional, then you're the winner. And it's correct not only in hand-to-hand but in speach-to-speach as well. |
Everyday life this is Anytime anyone gets more emotional than the other person, things start going towards uncontrolled actions. The coolest part is the interpretation of own emotions - shame, guilt, and everything else that's in store... I've been learning just to get over it and maybe thing about it later when the emotions are gone. And another thing... if there is no need to act while being emotional - it's better not to. |
Yes, and when you are aware of the affects of other person's remarks and actions
it is a continuous war of manipulation, and staying yourself. One way to question
the emotion on the moment it comes is to identify the situation that arises the
emotions and ask five questions:
1. what am I afraid of?
2. what is the worst that can happen?
3. what is the best that can happen?
4. How to avoid the worst, and reach the best?
5. What is the next action?
of course, this helps only if you have time to think.
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| Haveunique писал(а): | | And if you don't have time to think, Milla? |
Being aware of the situation, then do just what you feel right to let the emotion go.
The main thing is to act somehow, and not stay in the emotion.
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| Haveunique писал(а): | | Gra-ach писал(а): | | Girls, apparently something is missing in our "chemical makeup" I raised this question at the last meeting with SiFu and all boys, including SiFu, said that the "fight back until a bully ceases" approach is the best course of action. And they couldn't even think of any other way to solve the situation. |
Sounds like a man's world? How do you imagine women fighting against a bully? I mean, of course there can be kicks and punches, but isn't that a last resort of us women? |
In my opinion it depends how you are built. Not all women are small, and then the size itself can be intimidating
Don't using fists use brain too, Irene?
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