Importance of criticism
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Procyona
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I see. Thank you Irene
It is true that other people often pay attention to different things and have ideas I have not tough of, so it's important to just listen and learn sometimes.   _________________ "As you think, so shall you become." - Bruce Lee
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Артем Лысенко Instructor
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Haveunique"][quote="Кот писал(а):There is a inner dissfunctional transition of energy inside while you step into "nice position", instead of beeing your-self.
Lying to oneself is one of the biggest triggers for fears... Honesty is a base for mental health. Do you guys and girls think that harsh criticizing comes from fears? My opinion - yes because aggression equals fears. So that means a harsh critic needs compassion in the first place.[/quote]
I'm concerned that lying comes from the fear of being missunderstand or from the fear, that one's opinion is different from your own (or probably correct, and it's just a fear of unwilling to change your own oppinion:))   _________________ Я или никто! Сейчас или никогда!   |
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Кот писал(а):I'm concerned that lying comes from the fear of being missunderstand or from the fear, that one's opinion is different from your own (or probably correct, and it's just a fear of unwilling to change your own oppinion:))
Artem, I think lying is just a way to run away from the reality instead of taking the responsibility and action. Ironically, such hiding only makes one's life shorter...   _________________ Не пытайся - делай.
Try not, do.
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What do you mean by shorter?   _________________ What doesn't destroy me, makes me stronger. - F. Nietzshe
Your life is yours alone, rise up and live it! - T. Goodkind
May you live every day of your life. - J. Swift   |
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Procyona
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Haveunique писал(а): | Gra-ach писал(а): | Haveunique писал(а): | No one can convince us unless we convince ourselves |
Unless they are very very good at convincing
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Only unaware people can be manipulated. |
It is true! Convincing, and making decisions based on it, is your doing, and even if the ultimate force came from outside, the change always happens inside. To be aware of it or not, makes little difference to the process.   _________________ "As you think, so shall you become." - Bruce Lee
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Procyona
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Haveunique"][quote="Кот писал(а):I'm concerned that lying comes from the fear of being missunderstand or from the fear, that one's opinion is different from your own (or probably correct, and it's just a fear of unwilling to change your own oppinion:))
Artem, I think lying is just a way to run away from the reality instead of taking the responsibility and action. Ironically, such hiding only makes one's life shorter...[/quote]
To my mind, you are both right. I can sympathise with the fear of being wrong, or misunderstood, but I also think that at the same time lying turns you away from yourself, as you try to hide what you are and feel.   _________________ "As you think, so shall you become." - Bruce Lee
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In this case I agree, but it also trains memory and imagination   _________________ What doesn't destroy me, makes me stronger. - F. Nietzshe
Your life is yours alone, rise up and live it! - T. Goodkind
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True point, Irene, but you can train that in other ways, too: Like frowning when you smile, or think of pleasent things when you are curled up. These things boost imagination, because there is a contradiction there.   _________________ "As you think, so shall you become." - Bruce Lee
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With conversations there are always actions and reactions. The reactions may seem random, but there is always a treshold of things that cause it. It may be a certain word or the level you emphasis your message, and how clear you are in the message.
In a conversation, there is reaction over and over, and it becomes a flow. And when you are in the same freqvency with the ones you are conversing, you sometimes seem to fill each others sentences.   _________________ "As you think, so shall you become." - Bruce Lee
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Lying to oneself is one of the biggest triggers for fears... Honesty is a base for mental health. Do you guys and girls think that harsh criticizing comes from fears? My opinion - yes because aggression equals fears. So that means a harsh critic needs compassion in the first place. |
I think that harsh criticizing comes from something you (or the one who criticizes) have done to the person (or somebody you associate him or her with) that you know is unfair or destructive.
By criticizing one can try to explain those actions and claim that it was OK that he did that.
It looks like "well, I did all this s..t to him, but see - he's not so good either, so he deserves it".   |
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Skywalker писал(а): | Haveunique писал(а): |
Lying to oneself is one of the biggest triggers for fears... Honesty is a base for mental health. Do you guys and girls think that harsh criticizing comes from fears? My opinion - yes because aggression equals fears. So that means a harsh critic needs compassion in the first place. |
I think that harsh criticizing comes from something you (or the one who criticizes) have done to the person (or somebody you associate him or her with) that you know is unfair or destructive.
By criticizing one can try to explain those actions and claim that it was OK that he did that.
It looks like "well, I did all this s..t to him, but see - he's not so good either, so he deserves it". |
And sadly that kind of thinking does not even up anything; life is never fair   _________________ "As you think, so shall you become." - Bruce Lee
"Have fun, do good, and the money will come." - Richard Branson
"Believe in yourself. Keep writing." - Neil Gaiman   |
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