[Procyona]

I see. Thank you Irene

It is true that other people often pay attention to different things and have ideas I have not tough of, so it's important to just listen and learn sometimes.   

[Артем Лысенко]

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There is a inner dissfunctional transition of energy inside while you step into "nice position", instead of beeing your-self.

Lying to oneself is one of the biggest triggers for fears... Honesty is a base for mental health. Do you guys and girls think that harsh criticizing comes from fears? My opinion - yes because aggression equals fears. So that means a harsh critic needs compassion in the first place.[/quote]

I'm concerned that lying comes from the fear of being missunderstand or from the fear, that one's opinion is different from your own (or probably correct, and it's just a fear of unwilling to change your own oppinion:))   

[Haveunique]

[Haveunique]

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I'm concerned that lying comes from the fear of being missunderstand or from the fear, that one's opinion is different from your own (or probably correct, and it's just a fear of unwilling to change your own oppinion:))

Artem, I think lying is just a way to run away from the reality instead of taking the responsibility and action. Ironically, such hiding only makes one's life shorter...   

[Gra-ach]

What do you mean by shorter?   

[Procyona]

[Procyona]

Haveunique"][quote="Кот писал(а):

I'm concerned that lying comes from the fear of being missunderstand or from the fear, that one's opinion is different from your own (or probably correct, and it's just a fear of unwilling to change your own oppinion:))

Artem, I think lying is just a way to run away from the reality instead of taking the responsibility and action. Ironically, such hiding only makes one's life shorter...[/quote]

To my mind, you are both right. I can sympathise with the fear of being wrong, or misunderstood, but I also think that at the same time lying turns you away from yourself, as you try to hide what you are and feel.   

[Haveunique]

[Gra-ach]

In this case I agree, but it also trains memory and imagination   

[Procyona]

True point, Irene, but you can train that in other ways, too: Like frowning when you smile, or think of pleasent things when you are curled up. These things boost imagination, because there is a contradiction there.   

[Haveunique]

[Procyona]

With conversations there are always actions and reactions. The reactions may seem random, but there is always a treshold of things that cause it. It may be a certain word or the level you emphasis your message, and how clear you are in the message.

In a conversation, there is reaction over and over, and it becomes a flow. And when you are in the same freqvency with the ones you are conversing, you sometimes seem to fill each others sentences.   

[Haveunique]

[Skywalker]

[Procyona]