[Procyona]

Thank you Tetyana, for it's a challenge   

[Gra-ach]

Indeed it is   

[Haveunique]

One way to use silence is to shift focus off yourself and pay your attention to people around. It may sound like an obvious thing, but how often are you actually listening to what others are saying?

It takes me time and effort to keep learning to listen to other people and also help them speak themselves like they want to, not how they think it would be nice or correct.   

[Procyona]

Dear learning partners in the forum, how much do you think one should talk about his or her achievements?

To me, words do not matter as much as the things that are actually done, but at the same time I would want my achievements be as visible as possible. It's more about timing than anything: if I have already done something, I can talk and show, but if not, I need to work more before talking.

In Finnland it is common to hide ones achievements from others, so that other people do not become greedy or envy toward you. To my mind this is foolish, as achievements and other good things grow when shared.   

[Procyona]

[Haveunique]

Milla, the only way we can change anything is be the change. How do you understand this answer? thank you   

[Procyona]

[Haveunique]

Exactly   

[Gra-ach]

[Procyona]

That is true Gra-ach, it always matters to who you are talking to. I would probably not talk about my cooking skills if I was interviewed to a company selling phones

I do not talk a lot about my things either, but I am learning the benefits of it. Even among friends I have differnt people I talk about different things, too. Topics arise and fall depending on how the relationship chemistry works. So, it's good to have different friends and people to share different things with.   

[Procyona]

How about situations where another person does not feel like talking, and the other one just keeps asking questions and says his opinions? Sometimes people do not notice this, if they pay attension to the talking part only. How does one notice a wish to talk?

When I am not willing to talk, I have directed my attention elsewhere, and sometimes I feel this kind of fibe from a person who does not wish to speak or be spoken to and they might somehow grow smaller in their appearance. And also, the answers either become short or do not exist at all.   

[Haveunique]

Simply, Milla... the one who wishes talks )))))) If he/she doesn't talk, that's their wish. The reasons behind the choices of others we may know a little bit once we know the person but still that's not facts.   

[Procyona]

That is true, Tetyana, thank you for noting. I have still lot to learn about prejudge it seems   

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Procyona, I like your signature very much!! I read it every time I see your messsages)))

"Have fun, do good, and the money will come." - Richard Branson

thank you for inspirations!