[Procyona]

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Sometimes it is just seems to be hard to tell yourself true about your talents, purpose of life and your attitute to yourself and other people. But, that is another topic to discuss:)

Thank you Кот for a new topic Why is it indeed sometimes so hard to acknowlegde your skills and abilities? Or is it?

To my mind it is hard sometimes: I compare myself to others, it is a natural habit. And when I do, I see the side of them they want to show. At the same time I see myself from a diffrent point of view, so making comparison to others is not equal. That is why everyone else may seem to do better than I.

Also, humans are social creatures, so we seek to be part of social groups. That is why we sometimes make compromises to rather be part of that group than to be unique alone. With growing natinal and international connections is has become easier to be yourself and still be part of a group, fortunately   

[Haveunique]

Brilliant topic, Milla... it is hard because it means responsibility...
Natural habit doesn't exist, we acquire all our habits as we live. That means we can change any habit we wish into a new habit of our choice. And if I am not mistaken, this is something that differs us from animals? Conscious choice? Also, we see things we wish to see until we learn to see the reality just as it is... this is why, at the beginning level of awareness we realize how much we miss from what is going on around... because instead of seeing we look for things we want to see. And spend a lot of time comparing others with what we imagine...   

[Procyona]

[Haveunique]

[Procyona]

So true! But does that mean that we actually are the things we have our attention on, too? Aren't we what we do? At least having attention somewhere changes how we think of it, and when continued long enough, it would become a part of our habits, and so ourselves.   

[Haveunique]

[Procyona]

But aren't attention and doing optimally the same thing?

To change the view point of the subject, in addition to your abilities - what do you think about knowing your limits considering these abilities? Do we need to pay attention to them and if yes, how?

I sometimes have phases of overwork and relaxing periods in my life, and have heard people suggesting keeping my limits in mind, not to gross them too much to get too tired or stressed. Some say that that way I can keep doing more.

I understand that it's good to stay in balance and relaxed when working, but in order to know where my limits are, and to raise them I would need to gross them sometimes.